Tag Archives | 2016

Rope Hangout

Bring Rope! Bring Friends! If you don’t have rope, some will be on hand to use, but it will be in limited supply. If you don’t have any friends with you, you will probably make some new ones. This is a good place to practice rope and ask questions. Scenes are discouraged, since that’s what the dungeon is for. Participants should remain approachable while at the hangout and lesson groups are strongly encouraged. Rope tops and bottoms of all experience levels are welcome to come learn, share, and practice their knowledge.


Mr_Blackwell is the mysterious figure that reaches each part of the show before anyone else, and makes sure that it looks magnificent, all of the electronic equipment is setup and working, and ensures that the presenter has everything else that they need. ?

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Private Dancer

Private Dancer: Seduce Your Partner(s) With Your Beautiful Body

Have you always wanted to do a striptease for your partner(s) but felt like you didn’t have the “right” body? Or just didn’t know how to put a routine together? This class celebrates all body types and will be part burlesque/striptease tutorial and part body positive reinforcement workshop for the body you have right now. Join Polyphonist, co-founder and former co-director of White Elephant Burlesque, as she helps you figure out how to select the right music and outfit, shows you some basic moves and how to build on them, and also gives you confidence boosting pointers to put it all together. Comfortable clothing is recommended. Participation is encouraged but not mandatory.


Polyphonist (Geneviève) is a polyamorous, panromantic, gray ace switch as well as a writer, singer, and burlesque dancer. She is the Artistic & Programming Director for Jeff Mach Events and co-founded The White Elephant Burlesque Society, where she spent six years dancing, singing, choreographing, and co-directing before semi-retiring in 2012. She directed the very first production of Jeff Mach’s play “Seeds” at GKE 1. Her YA short stories have been commissioned and published online at youngentertainmentmag.com and her erotica can be found in The First Annual Geeky Kink Anthology. Geneviève enjoys floggers/flogging (especially topping for rose flogging), being thrown against walls by people she trusts, and taking long drives through upstate NY. A self-proclaimed musical theatre geek, she knows all the words to Les Misèrables and will happily do “Confrontation” with anyone willing to sing Javert’s role.

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Use the Force, Young Padawan!

Chi, chakra, the laws of thermodynamics­ all play with the concept of energy. As an unorthodox approach to kink, energy play deals with many of the same principles that parallel with it- rapport, communication, trust. So why not put them together? Starting off with some group icebreaker exercises, this workshop will aim towards building the underlying connection that supports rapport and consent.


Presented by SweetGasp. Chaotic Neutral, Groovy Evil, Bringer of Cookies- these are some of the titles that can be applied to SweetGasp. Entrenched in the BDSM scene since 2012, they have worked to promote a safe environment for education, as well as bridging the gap between Muggle and Kinkster. Community and communication are the core topics in their talks, advocating for C3 (clear, concise, communication) while also mixing in sugar, spice and everything nice (and some Chemical X for kicks).

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Daycare

Our most adorable programming will be back at the GKE this year for more fun with Littles and Middles There will be blanket forts, arts and crafts, cool science (SCIENCE!), fun and games, and – of course – storytime!

The daycare monitor at GKE this year is Lilybear!

Friday
7:30pm – 9:00pm: Open Daycare
9;00pm – 10:00pm: Science for Littles: Bubbling Witches Brew
10:00pm – 11:30pm: Slumber Story Time

Saturday
1:00pm – 2:00pm: Sunflower Sculptures
3:00pm – 4:00pm: Gumdrop Towers & Games
4:30pm – 6:00pm: My Little Pony: LARP w/ Rinoa!
7:30pm – 8:00pm: Open Daycare
8:00pm – 9:00pm: GKE Spelling Bee
9:30pm – 11:00pm: Spooky Story Time

Sunday
10:30am – 11:00am: Open Daycare
11:00am – 12:00pm: Leaf Prints
2:00pm – 4:00pm: Science for Littles: Salty Dragon Painting


Hi, I’m Lilybear! I’m a super ferocious little bear, as well as your very friendly Daycare Monitor! If you like stories, games, and arts and crafts, please stop by the Daycare during your GKE experience because we would love to meet you!

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Aural stimulation / Geeky Kinky Music Jam

Can sounds set you off? PhotoDragon will lead a discussion about sounds and their effects and how they can be integrated into kink play. Following the discussion, he will lead the group in an open music jam, participants are encouraged to bring their own instruments. Guitars, drums, flutes, violins, bagpipes, whatever you have, whatever you play, join in the jam. Class is open to active participants and to those who just want to listen and enjoy the talents of your fellow GKE attendees.


PhotoDragon is a musician, kinkster, and educator

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Fanfiction Writers Meetup

“Does what it says on the tin.” — The Ninth Doctor

Come meet up with other writers to chat about our fandoms, our writing process, intersections of fanfiction and kink, why we read kink into canons, or whatever else strikes our fancy.


Letterblade is a Massachusetts plant, photosynthesizing all her life in the intermittent Massachusetts sun. She also has been writing fanfiction and being kinky all her life, and sometimes putting the two together.

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Blind Book Exchange

blind-date-with-a-book-1024x768Bring your gently used books to the blind book exchange. Wrap each book in brown paper, label it with genre, age bracket, and a general description of the plot. Pick up a mysterious new book to enjoy. Erotica encouraged!


Moderated by Kalita. Kalita is a Weapons Grade Boner Fairy, it says so on the internet so it must be true! You may remember her as that crazy redhead from the first GKE:NE who hosted a glory hole in a Tardis. This year she’s walking on the mild side and hosting a book exchange, stop by, say “hi,” and get some books.

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Pillow Fort

catpillow fortSunday morning in the Serenity Space is time for the “Why Am I Awake Pillow Fort Building”. We use blankets, chairs, pillows, whatever we can grab and make everything from cozy nests to palatial pillow fortresses.

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FUNctional Rope

A comprehensive starter for those wanting to get into rope or those who are into rope that want some fun and fast ties for interactive rope play. Similar to hojo-jitsu or guerilla tactics, but gentler and more erotic (but I will still show you the painful bits as well). We will also discuss types of rope for this type of play.


Mistress Kayla Crowe is a creative woman with a background in design, sales, and service. A sado-masochist who enjoys trying new things and always expanding beyond the norm of BDSM play; she has been training subs, sissies, and switches for a number of years, in the midwest region. She has been a member of Satyricon and other community groups in the Madison community for over 10 years, an active member of the community for 15 years. She is a NCSF supporter. She presents and demos on non-traditional BDSM toys, Anger Management for Tops, Self-Rejection, CBT rope play and Poly relationships with MadCubsFan (SR) at regional events and private venues.

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Predicament Bondage

Using materials and equipment in congress to create a dynamic relationship between the bottom and those materials. Predicament bondage is a unique type of play in that once it is set up, it can keep giving pleasure or giving pain in a wave-like form. The top does not have to do but a few adjustments and the bottom is ostensibly torturing themselves. This technique can be used in many situations and this class will discuss the various aspects of play as well as demonstrate its uses.


Mistress Kayla Crowe is a creative woman with a background in design, sales, and service. A sado-masochist who enjoys trying new things and always expanding beyond the norm of BDSM play; she has been training subs, sissies, and switches for a number of years, in the midwest region. She has been a member of Satyricon and other community groups in the Madison community for over 10 years, an active member of the community for 15 years. She is a NCSF supporter. She presents and demos on non-traditional BDSM toys, Anger Management for Tops, Self-Rejection, CBT rope play and Poly relationships with MadCubsFan (SR) at regional events and private venues.

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DIY: Make Your Own Flogger

Have you ever looked at a toy & wished you had the skills to create one yourself? Or are you a crafter who has wondered what else you could make with your growing stash of materials? Come to Delirium’s Kinky Crafting class where you will be taught how to make your own flogger out of materials you can buy at any craft store. Whether you are new to crafting or someone who has a knack for fabricating homemade wares – this class is for you! Attendees will be shown how to customize their creation to fit their style of kink.

All supplies will be provided – there will be a $5 fee (cash or PayPal) to cover costs. Seating is limited to 25. Please use the form below (direct link to form here) to register for this class and receive instructions on paying the materials fee. Seating is limited to 25 people.

Saturday, November 5, 12:30-2:00 PM


deliriumPresented by Delirium. Delirium is a pansexual switch with a penchant for polyamory. You may be acquainted with this ambitious Androgyne as the Assistant Programming Director of Jeff Mach Events. Being a vehemently vocal advocate of intersectional feminisim, the ability to work for events that focus on inclusiveness & creating a safe space for all individuals is quite a fulfilling aspect of her life. As a bit of a workaholic with way too many hobbies, Delirium is always keen on sharing skills she specializes in with anyone who wants to learn. You can find her on fetlife as VulpineDelirium.

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Ferrett Steinmetz: Reading & Book Signing

mancerNebula-nominated author (and FetLife K&P regular) Ferrett Steinmetz will be signing (and selling) books from his critically-acclaimed ‘Mancer trilogy – FLEX, THE FLUX, and FIX, described as “The Dresden Files meets Breaking Bad.” He’ll sign literally anything you put in front of him! Or just come and say hi! He gets lonely sometimes.


Ferrett Steinmetz is a noted polyamory writer and author of the books FLEX, THE FLUX, and the finale to the series, FIX. He is everywhere on FetLife as @theferrett, and can be found on Twitter at @ferretthimself.

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Ten Perilous Poly Patterns

There’s no bad way to do polyamory – but there are certain ways that are more dangerous than others. Ferrett discusses ten common ways in which polyamorous relationships can go wrong, from The Faked Contract Signature to Ping-Pong Poly to the Ablative Tertiary Meat-Shield.


Ferrett Steinmetz is a noted polyamory writer and author of the books FLEX, THE FLUX, and the finale to the series, FIX. He is everywhere on FetLife as @theferrett, and can be found on Twitter at @ferretthimself.

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Three is a Charm

Three is a Charm: Open Relationships and Polyamory for Beginners

If monogamy is not your default setting, and you’re unsure of how to proceed, start here with this workshop on opening up your relationships. Ideal for people who are curious about non-monogamy or someone who is starting, but not sure how to move forward, this workshop will satisfy all your questions. From online dating, to STI concerns and everything in between, join The Frisky Fairy as she helps you advocate for the relationship configurations you want and deserve!


Rebecca Hiles is a dating, relationships, and sexual wellness coach called The Frisky Fairy. She is a writer who addresses issues of polyamory, cancer, sex education, and sex toys. She has contributed to Sexpert.com, xoJane.com, and has had her writing featured on EverydayFeminism.com discussing her life as a polyamorous cancer patient, among other things. She has spoken at CatalystCon East, West, and Midwest, Poly For All Seasons, AwesomeCon, Rocky Mountain Poly Living, Atlanta Poly Weekend, InfinityCon, The Geeky Kink Event, and Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit. She is a member of the Poly Leadership Network, and is certified as a sex educator through Planned Parenthood League of Massachusetts. She was voted one of the Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014 and 2015. She is a member and contributor to the Gentle Perverts Social Club podcast. She is co-writing a book on coming out as poly (comingoutpoly.com) and you can help by submitting your coming out stories there.

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Kinkifying Board/Card/Video Games

Do you like to put dirty words in Scrabble? Or been playing Magic: the Gathering and wish you could be spanking your opponent literally and figuratively? Is your problem with Pokemon GO that it’s too vanilla? If you’re a geeky kinkster who’s looking for even more ways to merge their two interests together, this class is for you! I’ll be giving some examples and experiences I’ve had kinkifying games and then open up the floor to brainstorming new and inventive ways to kink things up. No prior gaming experience required. You’ll never look at a pinball machine the same way again.


Shako is a dom from New Hampshire with a lot of geek in their kink. You can usually find them wandering the halls of the GKE, usually wearing their shako. Also, they hit people with a rubber chicken.

P.S. No, they are not a League of Legends character.

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Making the Connection

Why is it so hard to meet people? Whether you are looking for a play partner for the evening or a partner for life, it can be difficult to make a connection. Why can some people play as much as they want at an event like GKE, while others watch from the sidelines? It’s not about how you look. It’s about what you do. In this workshop, we will discuss techniques, strategies and mindsets to find a partner and create a connection, but we will do so with a constant awareness that our potential partners are *people* to be treated with respect and honesty at all times. This is not a workshop for pickup artists. It is for good, honest people looking to have a safe, sane, consensual time with other good people.


Presented by Fireheart. Fireheart (Michael) has worked in the fields of sales and marketing for almost two decades, but sales and marketing is really just understanding what people want and finding ways to align their wants to your wants.

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ConCardia Tournament

concardiaConCardia is a collectible card game in the truest sense of the phrase.

Rather than buying packs, players get cards by exploring the convention. They sign up at the ConCardia table for free and are given a series of tasks and quests to get cards. The very first quest they must complete before they can pursue any others is that of visiting every single sponsoring vendor to get the card that they hold.

ConCardia Tournament
Glory, Fame, Wealth Beyond Imagination. These are probably not things you will find at the ConCardia Tournament, but you can win fabulous prizes from our vendors and have fun playing against other ConCardia players.


Hosted by Fireheart. Fireheart (Michael) has worked in the fields of sales and marketing for almost two decades, but sales and marketing is really just understanding what people want and finding ways to align their wants to your wants.

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Whips for Play

This class is a basic introduction to whips and how to use them in play.


MrPerson has been teaching whip throwing for over 15 years, starting out with long whips and performing at Renaissance fairs and other events. Shortly after, MrPerson became involved in the BDSM scene and brought his whips with him.

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The Tao of Degredation

Come get your “relaxation” and philosophical caps on for this theoretical and practical class on degradation. We will talk about meditation, coping with the paradoxes of degradation, yoga and degradation, and of course, letting go of ego! This class is best for those who have taken a Degradation 101 class.


nothing (aka boy max) is a genderqueer, gray asexual kinkster with a passion for humiliation, leather, and ageplay, and sometimes, all of those at once! Nothing has presented at past GKENEs and GKEs as well as for Dark Odyssey, Black Rose, and in other communities. They are also this year’s GKE Classic Bootblack Coordinator.

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Consent Track

When you think about consent, can you describe it? Can you comfortably imagine parts of negotiating a scene beyond the normal starting points of “yes” and “no”? Can you imagine thinking about consent with someone new, somebody who doesn’t know you at all? Can you imagine consent with someone who is a regular play partner—somebody who knows you well enough to have a bunch of assumptions about what you want, based on what you usually want, but might not want this time? Can you imagine how you would ask if you may touch the shoulder of someone you know, but do not have permission to touch? Can you imagine how you would ask for a hug, without making the other person feel pressured to give it? Whether you are shouting yes or biting your lip, this year’s Consent Track is sure to interest and engage you!

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DIY: Comic Book Shoes, Cases & More

Do you like comics and fashion? Come and create beautiful, wearable book art for your feet! You must bring your own pair of shoes (plain shoes without embellishment or laces are best). If you don’t want to make shoes you can decorate a cell phone case, laptop case/Nook, or any other flat surface that you can find. All other supplies will be provided. If you have a particular character in mind, bring a comic with that character in it. There will be a small fee to help cover costs. Seating is limited to 20. A $5 fee is required (cash only, collected at the session).

Space is limited, preregistration is recommended (see form below or at this link). Walk-ins will be admitted if open space remains.
This session is currently scheduled for Saturday, November 5 at 4pm, but is subject to change.

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Presented by DrKitKat. You may know DrKitKat from her many costume changes during previous GKEs, often going through four or five changes in a day, and frequently with unusual and fun shoes. DrKitKat is also the “Stage Manager” at Kinky Science Theater 3000 performances.

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Playing on the Edge

Knives are some of the most versatile toys available. They can be sensual or sadistic. They can be instruments of control and fear or primal claws to rend our prey. They can be as scary to the top as the bottom. This class is about knives and how to employ them with confidence however you are using them.


Presented by Bydarra: At my core, I’m an enabler. I want people to succeed at whatever passion they possess. This is the heart of why I teach. Education is my passion. I taught my first kink class in 2005 and my classes have kept pace with my developing taste for edgier play, relationship issues, and my fascination with the psychology and neurochemistry involved. Since I retired from my day job in 2012 I have travelled North America and Europe to learn how this works for others. Sometimes I teach but I always learn from those I encounter. What can we learn together?

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Intro to Floor Suspensions

Get grounded! Floor suspensions are an amazing hybrid, offering the intimacy and connection of floor work with the sensory experience of partial suspension. In addition, floor suspensions are a viable alternative for a variety of body types, when other forms of rope play may not be practical. This interactive class will teach attendees how to:
• Evaluate the safety factors associated with floor suspensions
• Properly rig a hard point and support lines
• Execute a torso and leg lift
• Connect the respective lifts to create a floor suspension.

This is a hands-on class, attendees should wear comfortable clothing since we’ll be tying and getting tied. Bring six to eight pieces of bondage suitable rope such as hemp, jute or MFP. Also bring suspension hardware. Attendees should be capable of tying a suspension worthy Takate Kote, Box Tie, Chest Harness and nonlocking single column cuff.


The Black Pomegranate are collectively Mr.BLK and Ms.Pomegranate, poly, sex geeky, educators, bloggers and rope performers. Our blog was recently named #1 and #2 in two respective categories and recognized for its content. We also teach BDSM play techniques, consent and negotiation. Our credo is “Talking the Taboos”, because we want to lead the discussion that helps people to have better, safer sex. Our poly family, writing, and searching for the best restaurants keeps us busy.

Ms.Pomegranate is a seasoned social media professional and avid mythology writer. Mr.BLK passes the time with comic books and kettlebells.

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Sexy and Spooky: The Science of Fear Play

The tricky part of fear play is taking someone on an emotional ride into the unknown while keeping them completely safe. When you know a few simple tips, you can learn how to successfully push buttons and create genuine (yet safe) fear play scenes

This class will cover how to:

  • Specifically negotiate a fear play scene
  • Understand how the brain processes fear and how to use that knowledge to create (good) scary sensations in play
  • Suggest a few simple techniques that will heighten the peril factor in your scenes while keeping things emotionally and physically safe

This class is open to every experience level interested in adding the elements of fear or suspense to your play.


The Black Pomegranate are collectively Mr.BLK and Ms.Pomegranate, poly, sex geeky, educators, bloggers and rope performers. Our blog was recently named #1 and #2 in two respective categories and recognized for its content. We also teach BDSM play techniques, consent and negotiation. Our credo is “Talking the Taboos”, because we want to lead the discussion that helps people to have better, safer sex. Our poly family, writing, and searching for the best restaurants keeps us busy.

Ms.Pomegranate is a seasoned social media professional and avid mythology writer. Mr.BLK passes the time with comic books and kettlebells.

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Geeky Kinks of Color

This will be a space where we can discuss not only current issues but feelings when it comes to being a kinkster of color. There will be several panelists who will give their own thoughts about a variety of topics. If you have questions, come and ask them. If you feel comfortable just listening, listen with open ears. This is for all the heroes, villains, sidekicks, minions, allies in crime or justice, those unaligned or even a muggle. See you there!


Hosted by Brave_Dance. Brave_Dance is just a fun, loving geeky guy who loves getting people together to talk, laugh and learn new things whether it’s about real issues or other important issues, like ponies.

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A Kinky Wind Blows

A Kinky Wind Blows is based on the icebreaker activity “A Cold Wind Blows”.

While it bears a resemblance to musical chairs there are no winners or losers in this game. This activity is the perfect way to meet and get to know fellow kinksters; especially if this is your first time at GKE! Everyone is welcome to come on down and have a good time as this event is carefully balanced so that everyone can participate no matter what your comfort level.


Alex (BigMeatyClaws) is a professional Web Developer who sometimes likes to write about things. A lover of technology, video games, film, and TV he has inoculated himself with pop culture. Also an avid internet user and meme looker-atter.

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Women Of Color In Kink

Sometime you wanna go where everybody has a sense of solidarity with you. This is a space for all women (cis, trans, genderfluid. etc) of color to gather and discuss how we can shape the kink community to better suit our needs.


Rubyquill is a firm believer in intersectionality, always leaving a tip, and #blackgirlmagic. They steep themselves in nerd culture, would be happy to hear about that new obscure subgenre of music you like, and is happiest curled up in a nest of blankets taking a nap.

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So You Think You Know Hentai?

Attention perverts, anime fans, porn lovers, and smut enthusiasts! Do you spend hours fantasizing over what a tentacle monster would really do to a helpless girl? Have you watched Bible Black a time or two? Do you think you know ANYTHING about hentai? Come test your wits at this raunchy trivia game!


When KuroNeko isn’t binging on anime or forgetting it’s past her bedtime because she’s stuck in a boss fight, she’s moderating HVTNG, the Hudson Valley’s premier group for kinksters 18 to 35! Kuro has been active in the scene for almost 3 years now and she’s looking to play her part this year in having both the kinky and geeky worlds collide in this year’s GKE.

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The Art of Old Medicine

xavierdomFire Cupping is an advanced fire technique, while not difficult to do, it does require some practice. We will look at the equipment needed and we will talk about the placement of cups, the moving of them and the overall aesthetic to be achieved. Mostly we will see how it can be fun and enjoyable for both parties involved.


XavierDOM is a Dom and Sadist from Philadelphia. Friendly and approachable he actively encourages questions before and after demos. As a member of the community for over 15 years, and brings years of experience to any class or demonstration. While most remembered for his knowledge and classes on the Violet Wand, he continues to grow and evolve learning new styles of play. Also offering classes in Fire and Fire Cupping, as well as Wax Play, and Impact. He continues to bring his knowledge to those with interest.

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Dungeon 101: So You Are New

Is this your first event? First time in a Play Space? Wondering what each piece of equipment is use for, how to do it safely? Did you read 50 shades of Grey? If you answered yes at all then you are probably feeling overwhelmed. Welcome! In this class we will discuss the equipment that you will often see and how to use it, safely. We will also discuss Safe Space, Aftercare and how to navigate the dungeon without being a non-consenting target. We will also review basic Etiquette.


xavierdomXavierDOM is a Dom and Sadist from Philadelphia. Friendly and approachable he actively encourages questions before and after demos. As a member of the community for over 15 years, and brings years of experience to any class or demonstration. While most remembered for his knowledge and classes on the Violet Wand, he continues to grow and evolve learning new styles of play. Also offering classes in Fire and Fire Cupping, as well as Wax Play, and Impact. He continues to bring his knowledge to those with interest.

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Discord and Rhyme Karaoke

raith_gke2016D.A.R.Karaoke IS BACK!

Ready to sing?
Feed your karaoke fetish at Raith Kell’s D.A.R.Karaoke show. At ‘The Geeky Kink Event’ you can satiate your karaoke fix with “Discord and Rhyme Karaoke.” Sing your favorite songs, show off your chops, and have fun. Even if you don’t sing, come out to encourage your friends. This is karaoke at its finest. With a huge variety of songs to sing, wireless mics, and a clear, quality sound system, this is the show you don’t want to miss.

Get there early to get in the rotation sooner…but remember, no matter how long it takes or how many singers we have…EVERYONE SINGS AT LEAST ONCE!

Want to see what songs are available? You can check them all out on the D.A.R.K. website.

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Taking their Breath Away

Taking their Breath Away: Hypnotic Breath Play – Use the Force

This demo based class focuses on a topic that many people shy from trying due to safety concerns. With hypnosis, many of those dangers are less serious. I will talk about important safety precautions for this edgy but super hot sort of play. Watch me as I implant the breath control suggestion and play with it. Come see my mind control fantasies become real with a sexy technique inspired by Darth Vader.


gke_zanymZanym (or Morgan) has been in the BDSM scene for over a decade. Morgan is a top-leaning switch, polyamorous genderqueer sadomasochist, a mischievous alpha geek and a reaction junkie. Morgan is a coordinator of the NYC TES Hypnokink Group. She has taught classes at several regional and national events and encourages people to follow their passions. “She seemed so sweet and innocent until I got to know her.”

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Consent Based Flirting

Consent Based Flirting: The Pick-Up Play Edition

So, you’re at the dungeon and you meet a cutie. You want to do terrible terrible things with them. What happens next? How can you practice good consent and still end up having a chance to “spin their PokéStop”? Well, Akabi and Miho are here to help. Through a series of discussions and activities, we will practice and explore how to be ethical and still play with strangers. The class will focus on flirting, vetting, scene negotiations, and things to watch out for during the scene.


Darth “I’m not a Dom” Miho enjoys consensually doing evil things to pretty people. While not wielding an arsenal of pain, Miho is a poly sci nerd of a most wonkish caliber with a passion for both the social and business sides of the video game industry. When not digging around their twitter for news they consider themselves something of a perfectionist about their impact technique and a remarkable dork about History of various periods and regions.

Akabi is a kinky queer geek. They have been called “an encyclopedia of all things queer and poly.” When not thinking about, reading about, and discussing such things, they enjoy playing with circus toys, fire spinning, writing poetry, engaging in general geekery (especially superheroes) and weirdness.

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Exploring Consent from the Right Side of the Slash

Consent- sometimes it’s easy to negotiate, and sometimes it’s not. When you know you’re going to be negotiating a scene, you can get into the right headspace to state your boundaries and limits and feel comfortable in the negotiations… but what about all the other times consent issues come up?

  • The challenges of online communities
  • A stranger touches you without asking
  • Someone you are friendly with socially assumes more contact than you are comfortable with
  • Someone makes comments or advances towards you that make you uncomfortable

In addition to discussing the challenges of these and other situations, we’ll use exercises to gain practice handling ourselves in them and talk about ways of dealing with the aftermath of consent violations.


soumise brings her lifelong passions for movement, education, and helping people with her into the BDSM lifestyle. A former professional ballet dancer turned world ranked international style ballroom competitor, soumise has spent her 30 year career blending for the artistry of dance with the sciences of biomechanics, anatomy, kinesiology, rehabilitation and exercise. She creates and presents diverse workshops and educational events that engage, inform, and entertain participants of all levels in a variety of subjects across the US and abroad. She has enjoyed presenting at TESfest, GKE, Fetish Flea Market, NEEHU and EPIC. Her time is divided between working with her clients and students, training other instructors and helping her Master, Sir Vice, with His business, Limits Unleashed LLC. With her Master’s encouragement, soumise has been enjoying the integration of her professional interests with her lifestyle training and experiences.

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BDSM Social Etiquette

New to BDSM, its culture, its events? Confused by social cues, customs, and unspoken rules? Come join us for a workshop on how to mix, mingle, and socialize without faux pas and (unnecessary) pain.

Topics:
– Information Privacy
– Caution & Healthy Paranoia
– On-line & Off
– Starting with Respect
– Communication vs TMI (too much info)
– Permission & Consent


Sir Vice is an active member of the BDSM community with 15 years’ experience and manages Limits Unleashed LLC – a personal coaching service oriented for those in alternative lifestyles. He conducts research and mentors others across various aspects of the BDSM lifestyle culture. Specific expertise includes Power Exchange and related relationship dynamics (D/s & M/s), general BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism) activities, and general subject matter expertise in communication, relationships, and sexual & general behavioral psychology. He also has over 10yrs experience in the Chinese martial arts and meditation practices and instruction. He has enjoyed presenting at NELA’s Winter Fetish Flea Market, TESfest, GKE, MAsT, NEEHU as well as presentations for numerous other groups.

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Neurodiversity, Kink, and Trauma (and Queer stuff!)

Neurodiversity, Kink, and Trauma (and Queer stuff!): A Quick and Dirty on Consent and Accessibility

This panel will be an education and Q&A on Neurodiversity (including Trauma) and accessibility for all kinds of bodies. We will be chatting about consent and kink negotiations for neurodivergent folks as well as how to be awesome kink allies.


gke_neurTeshale is a NYC-Based writer, performer, educator and overActivist specializing in Holistic Coaching and Embodied Storytelling. Teshale’s work focuses cultivating joy, healing trauma and centering the self.

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Safewords

Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Safewords but Were Afraid to Ask

Join a discussion guided by AWitchyWoman all about safewords and safesignals. We will talk about common safe word usage. The pros and cons of this safety technique. Touch on the history. Safewords in vanilla world. The differences between safewords and safesignals. What do stoplights have to do with it anyway? The importance of using your words even when safewords haven’t been negotiated.


AWitchyWoman has been an active participant in the BDSM community for over 15 years. She is unrepentantly Poly, Bi, and Switchy. Easygoing and lots of fun.

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No Further Than You Will

No Further Than You Will: “The Lord of the Rings” As A Story About Consent

Consent is one of the most important themes in J.R. R. Tolkien’s Middle-Earth stories. This presentation will discuss characters and key moments from “The Lord of the Rings” as well as “The Silmarillion” to establish the importance of consent in Tolkien’s work and establish the book as a starting point for others to learn about consent.


Benedick is a slutty kinkster, or possibly a kinky slut, from the NYC area. Textual analysis and postmodernism make him all hot and bothered.

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Consent: Hands on Learning

Kinesthetic (or tactile) learning is a learning style in which students learn by physical activities, rather than listening to a lecture or watching demonstrations. Together we will explore how we engage in actively exploring consent with partner activities. Touch activities are designed to strengthen our awareness of how we react in novel situations by practicing active communicate of our consent. Partners welcome but not required.


img_8845Katalyste is polyamorous and has been responsible for the founding and continued growth of two polyamorous communities in Memphis, TN and Norfolk, VA. She has taught many workshops on Non-Violent Communication over the last three years and is deeply passionate about giving kinky and poly people the tools they need to communicate with an authentic, clear, and kind voice.

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You Saw Nothing: Discreet Public Play

You can adapt many kinds of play to be discrete and suitable for public without non-consensually pulling others into your scenes. This is half presentation half brainstorming session.


SirLadyBear, also known as the happy sadist, is a queer geek of color who specializes in creative sadism and impact.

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No, No Thank You, Fuck Off

“No, No Thank You, Fuck Off”; The art of saying “No”

“No” is a very difficult thing to say, but it is one of the most important ways to keep yourself safe in the scene. Many of us have been raised, and are eager, to please. We fear saying no will disappoint someone and cause us to be disliked. While it’s easy to tell someone to “just say no” many of us, especially bottoms, have a very difficult time putting that into practice. This class offers perspective, techniques, and practice in ways to say “No”


Lilah Rose is best encapsulated as a kinky, geeky, sapiosexual, polyamorous, social introvert with a fetish for sharing knowledge. Outside of her kink life she teaches about mental health in high schools and colleges, models for art and photography from the demure to the erotic and is an avid crafter and horse-woman. Having battled severe mental illness since elementary school Lilah is passionate about sharing the knowledge she has gained on her journey to wellness with others.

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BDSM vs Abuse

This class aims to help define where the line between BDSM and Abuse lies, what types of abuse exist and behaviors to be on alert for, and how to get help if you or someone you know is in an abusive situation.


img_8844NJTherapist has her MSW and is a NJ licensed social worker. She currently works as a psychotherapist and has been a member of the NJ kink community for 7 years.

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Mental Health and BDSM

This class focuses on aspects of mental health as it relates to the practice of BDSM. The goal is to be able to apply the information learned here as one negotiates scenes/relationships with other partners, becomes more aware of how emotional well-being can affect play and how it can change the need and level of care. Special emphasis will also be placed on how to self-care during and after a convention to have the best possible experience!


img_8844NJTherapist has her MSW and is a NJ licensed social worker. She currently works as a psychotherapist and has been a member of the NJ kink community for 7 years.

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Effective Negotiation for BDSM

Do you have difficulty in negotiating a scene or forget what information is important to know before engaging in play? This class aims to improve the manner in which one negotiates the wants and needs you may have for a scene and how to do so more effectively.


img_8844NJTherapist has her MSW and is a NJ licensed social worker. She currently works as a psychotherapist and has been a member of the NJ kink community for 7 years.

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